Block 28: Crossroads for Harris
Bigg-Wither by Georgann Eglinski
Harris Bigg-Wither (1781-1833)
Romantic marriages were not the norm in Jane Austen’s
England, where class, family, money and social standing motivated upperclass
mothers to settle their daughters in a family saturated in wealth or titles.
Vintage Embroidered picture
Faded gentry like the
Austens had less lofty goals. A good home was an attractive trade, personified
in the character of Charlotte Lucas who marries Mr. Collins in Pride
and Prejudice.
Recent embroidered picture of Mr. Collins and
Charlotte Lucas by Willow Tree Stitcher
Jane came close to making a similar trade when she accepted the
proposal of Harris Bigg-Wither, younger brother of her friends Alathea and
Catherine Bigg. While spending a winter holiday with the family at
their estate Manydown Park, almost-27-year-old Jane received a proposal from 21-year-old
Mr. Bigg-Wither, heir to the estate. With that proposal came promise of a
secure future, a mansion and a respected place in local society. Jane accepted.
Jane often visited her childhood friends at
Manydown Park. Illustration
by Ellen Hill.
…And immediately had
second thoughts. It may have been his youth and unromantic demeanor, but I like to think that she realized she would also be trading independence for the
conventional status of helpmeet, mother, hostess, and femme covert, a covered woman with no legal rights.
The Dancing Master’s Ball by Isaac Cruickshank.
Jane Austen and Harris
Bigg-Wither grew up dancing at Manydown.
Despite Cousin Eliza’s falling for Henry Austen who was ten
years younger, shy younger brothers of one’s girlfriends rarely excite
romantic feelings in 27-year-olds.
Silk embroidered picture
Jane was quite familiar with the strict social rules for engagements
and proposals. Her novels are based on the prevailing standards of romance,
love and propriety. A woman might never declare her feelings first. The man had
the right to declare his love or admiration and ask for her hand. She had the right to refuse gracefully.
Illustration for Northanger Abbey by Charles E. Brock
Henry Tilney in Northanger
Abbey compares marriage to dancing: “In both, man has the advantage of
choice, woman only the power of refusal.”
Crossroads by Dustin Cecil
Jane’s acceptance and then rejection was right on the edge of
propriety. Women were permitted to change their minds without
completely ruining their reputations. Men breaking engagements could be considered
a cad and sued for “breach of promise.”
The whole matter was mortifying. Jane’s social faux-pas
forced her to cut her visit short. She and Cassandra hurried back to Steventon,
a few miles away, and then on to their home in Bath.
Fashion Plate 1808
Mr. Bigg-Wither’s sisters were miffed about the broken
engagement but the long-term friendship revived after a cool period between the families. Two years
after Jane rejected Mr. Bigg-Wither he married another woman. Alathea and
Catherine moved household to Winchester and were very kind when Jane was afflicted by her last illness, helping her
find a place to stay near her doctor in the larger city.
BlockBase #1963
Crossroads, an old pattern given the name by the Needlecraft
Supply Company in 1938, can represent Harris Bigg-Wither’s proposal and Jane’s
night of indecision. At this crossroads she
again chose an independent path.
Cutting a 12” Block
A - Cut 4 squares 5”.
B - Cut 12 squares 2-3/8”. Cut
each in half with a diagonal cut to make 2 triangles.
You need 24 triangles.
C - Cut 3 squares 4-1/4”. Cut with 2 diagonal cuts to make 4 triangles.
You need 12 triangles.
D - Cut 1 square 3-1/2”.
Sewing:
Crossroads by Becky Brown
Illustration by Hugh Thomson
See an essay in PDF form at Jane Austen’s House Museum site
about women, courtship and power.
Jane's sister-in-law Mary Lloyd Austen told her younger daughter Caroline the story of the tearful return to Steventon and years later Caroline in her memoir of her aunt wrote:
"To be sure she should not have said yes---overnight---but I have always respected her for the courage in cancelling that yes---the next morning."
Crossroads by Becky Brown
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